What do you think I should do?

Whether we are parents, spouses, friends, co-workers, employers, managers, salespeople, or Realtors, we all like to help when we can. Generally, we are flattered when others seek our advice and counsel.

We want to be there for friends, family, and customers that have issues that they want to share with us.

In wanting to help, our first inclination may be to share what we would do or what we think they should do. Sometimes this isn’t the best course of action.

All of us have had someone come to us to help solve a problem or issue – or so we thought. Maybe we were just the sounding board and tried to help too much. Maybe they need to work through or resolve the issue on their own.

When faced with the “What should I do?” or “What do you think I should do?” question or the “I don’t know what I should do” plea, try deflecting it before giving your opinion. Ask what they have thought of as a solution and why they are considering that option.

You can comment on their suggestion, tweak it a little, or contrast it with your own ideas, but in the end it will be their own solution to their own issue rather than something you’ve come up with. This will empower them and give them greater confidence in dealing with their issues.

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