I wrote on Wednesday about my podcast message about "Choices" and talked about the decisions that we make - sometimes minor and occasionally quite important.
One factor that people often overlook when it comes to decisions is what transpires as a result. In other words, choices (and the decisions than emanate from those choices) have consequences.
Sometimes those consequences are unforeseen and no amount of reasonable caution would prevent an unpleasant outcome. For instance, if we park our car under a tree, we may get bird droppings on it. That is foreseeable and avoidable by parking someplace else - or we can accept the consequences of getting a messy car as a result of parking there.
Conversely, we don't expect someone to back into us, dent our car, and then take off as if nothing happened while we are not there to witness it. In a large sense this is foreseeable because such things occasionally happen in parking lots, but in the practical realm there is nothing we can do to prevent this.
Here comes the choice, and the consequences. We can choose to let such matters, when they occur, ruin our day (and the next several days, weeks, or months after that) by feeling victimized, being mad, thinking revenge, and just having a grouchy disposition. Or, we can accept them as something that happened - even we have to incur some expense to rectify it - and move on. Release it and move on with our lives.
Being a victim or thinking like a victim continues to injure us and is a very negative use of our resources. These are consequences of not letting go and moving on.
One factor that people often overlook when it comes to decisions is what transpires as a result. In other words, choices (and the decisions than emanate from those choices) have consequences.
Sometimes those consequences are unforeseen and no amount of reasonable caution would prevent an unpleasant outcome. For instance, if we park our car under a tree, we may get bird droppings on it. That is foreseeable and avoidable by parking someplace else - or we can accept the consequences of getting a messy car as a result of parking there.
Conversely, we don't expect someone to back into us, dent our car, and then take off as if nothing happened while we are not there to witness it. In a large sense this is foreseeable because such things occasionally happen in parking lots, but in the practical realm there is nothing we can do to prevent this.
Here comes the choice, and the consequences. We can choose to let such matters, when they occur, ruin our day (and the next several days, weeks, or months after that) by feeling victimized, being mad, thinking revenge, and just having a grouchy disposition. Or, we can accept them as something that happened - even we have to incur some expense to rectify it - and move on. Release it and move on with our lives.
Being a victim or thinking like a victim continues to injure us and is a very negative use of our resources. These are consequences of not letting go and moving on.
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